You have probably spent time around a depressed
person only to find yourself also depressed!
bit more about the nature of depression and why it's so
important to stay away from people who are chronically
depressed...
The Power of Association
Have you ever heard of the term "guilty by association"
? If so, it might not have occurred to you
that guilt isn't the only thing that we acquired by
association.
Being around enthusiastic people causes you to become
enthusiastic, being around ambitious people encourages
you to become ambitious...and being around depressed people
causes you to become depressed.
This is because human beings are social creatures and we
rely on the support of one another to survive. Think about
how painful rejection is, and that ought to give you an
idea of how connecting with others is hardwired into us.
It's a part of our survival instincts, and so there's
nothing you can do to change that...and most of the time
that's okay.
But this survival instinct also causes us to blend in
with the people around us so that we will have a sense of
belonging. This, again, is completely normal - but it can
also be a double-edged sword.
Think about it, if you're around people who are
depressed all the time, how are you going to develop a
sense of belonging when you're with them?
By identifying with the way that they think and "tuning
in" to the same physical vibrations which you can "feel"
coming off of them. This might sound a little bit new age,
but the human body actually admits electrical signals and
vibrations according to the condition of the nervous system...
...which is an electrical system by the way.
So when I say that you "tune in" to the
vibration of the people around you, I mean that your body
can actually pick up on these vibrations and cause you to
think thoughts that will cause you to match that vibration.
This is also the same reason why depressed people are
attracted to one another, enthusiastic people are attracted
to one another, and so on and so on.
What About Influencing Them Instead?
Now, it might be tempting to think that you can be a
positive person around the depressed and cause them to take
on YOUR vibration. This is true sometimes....but it's also
true that for most people, vice comes easier than virtue...
Mahatma Gandhi said that by the way.
He also said that it's not possible for a reformer to be
in a close relationship with someone who they are reforming.
So if you know someone who is chronically depressed, it's
probably a good idea if you create some distance and
boundaries. Even if you love this person, depression isn't
as weak a state of mind as many of us think it is... for many
it's a position of power.
It's a position which allows people to gather sympathy
from others and to suck away their emotional energy.
The best way to help someone who has fallen into
chronic depression is to provide a positive example for them
to see...and it's hard to do this when you're allowing
them to suck all of your energy away.
At best, you can set an example for them to follow and
give them advice as to how they can change...but if they
won't, don't assume that they can't. More likely, their
depression is a position of power that they've been using to
get what they want for a very long time.
Knowing this, and the fact that depression is contagious,
it's best that you focus on keeping your vibrations consistent
with the type of people who will build you up and empower you
to become a better person.
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